Matt Abrahams

“Lenny, I am excited for our conversation and thank you for having me.”

“Absolutely, I look forward to that and those are topics I'm very excited to talk about, have done a lot of research in and look forward to sharing more.”

“That sounds great. That sounds great. I love that you've applied some of these techniques and found value from them.”

“The Brady Bunch advice is not good advice. I don't know about you and I don't know anybody who could imagine seeing a bunch of people in their underwear and feel more comfortable with that. And I thin...”

“And the bottom line is this, what you're doing for yourself is making sure it's not new and novel. It's something been there, done that, even though if it was virtual or visualized in your mind, to he...”

“That's right. Good for you. And congratulations on giving a TEDx talk. That is a high-stakes talk.”

“Don't say they're uncool. I'm doing one in two weeks.”

“I've done a number of them and I've coached many people and I think that there's a lot of value that they can provide people.”

“That's correct. Any distance you can give yourself from the anxiety that you're feeling is helpful and there are lots of techniques that help give you a little bit of distance and visualization is one...”

“That's exactly right. We are often our biggest impediments to good communication because of the anxiety we bring to the party.”

“Absolutely. So this is one of many cognitive reframing techniques. It is often attributed to my friend and colleague, Alison Wood Brooks, she's at Harvard Business School who did some research into th...”

“I'm not saying you have to go to an extreme and say, "I'm going to be the best communicator ever." Rather you can simply say as I do and as you alluded to. What I'll say right before I speak is, "I ha...”